Hi Dari, I appreciate your thoughts, the reaction was extreme given that I had spoken about it , shown her sketches of ideas and expressed my excitement, also I have bigger tattoos and all them when she met me bar the new one from NY, she even has a small tattoo herself and I hadn't considered it may be linked to some other phobia or such like, thank you.
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No it wasn't a surprise, I had talked about it over the 7 or 8 months ahead of our trip, I even had drawn the idea of the tattoo at scale and held it up to my arm to show her, I had told her many times of being tattooed on my first trip to NY and I just think she didn't think I was serious about it perhaps?
I have larger tattoos and they where there when we met, she even has a small tattoo herself it was a strange and very uncomfortable reaction.