You know, I came to this forum from what I thought was a really respectful place, knowing that I was knocking at the door of a tight-knit community and culture, and that I'd be putting out questions that would probably seem stupid and weird. I tried to be as open as I could about the reasons that brought me here, without crossing the line into TMI, hoping that by doing so I'd be able to convey why it would be worth your time to consider them. I tried to keep the desperation out of my tone, although in truth the only reason I was willing to step out of my super boring, middle-aged, non-tattooed comfort zone to even dare to approach you all is because I actually am sort of desperate to figure out what the F*** this newly-discovered mark on me is all about, and because I figured a forum with a bunch of folks who knew a shit-ton about tattoos might be a good place to start.
I kinda figured I'd get mocked or teased a bit about the weirdness of my questions, but I didn't expect to be ridiculed and challenged over the reasons I gave for having the questions in the first place. So I revised my original post to remove all references to the creepy circumstances behind why these questions are important to me, and now it just looks like I'm an entitled bitch demanding random information. And now, having written this, I just look like a super emo and whiny entitled bitch, LOL. So I'm in something of a bind here.
I'm not sure what I should have done differently, but I'm starting to get the feeling that I either came to the wrong place or was just too inept in how I approached it. In general I'm pretty patient and good-natured, but I guess this subject is too emotionally loaded for me to continue hanging around feeling stupid and laughed-at, so I think it makes sense for me to gather up my oversensitive self and make a respectful, albeit melodramatic, exit now. Since I'm incapable of making a graceful one, ha.
Special thanks to Devious6: I really appreciated your kind response.
Best of luck to all of you in your respective journeys. May all your tattoos be well-chosen, well-designed, well-executed, and in the end, well-loved.