Well I have a lady head and pin up tattooed on me and women scare the hell out of me in real life...ha ha.
I know what you mean, I have a snake tattoo but don't mind holding them etc, but I'm still unsure of big spiders. Last time at the zoo with my young boys I held all the snakes and there was a taranchula in its box, I syked myself up and asked the lady if I could hold it "no, that ones pretty aggressive" was the reply.
Still have a small spider filler tattoo on my list though.