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How do you not see that explaining it like that is actually what would have been helpful in the first place? Even just saying how you did go through that and your feelings. It's called validation, as soon as you feel like your feelings are acknowledged about a situation, it can help you calm down. idk if that makes it worse, since you know what it feels like and decided to take another route? This isnt about playing the victim, it's just there are SO many ways to help someone feel better about something like this. I DID take responsibility in my first post, like I keep repeating. I listed EVERYTHING I should have done, saying i KNOW that. How is that not taking responsibility? I was never ignoring where I went wrong. Saying what I didn;t like doesnt mean I'm blaming the artist either, it just means I'm pointing out what I dont like and how wrong everything went. Okay, and that's it's a good way to say it. So why not say it like that in the first place, say it nicely to someone? Just validate that yeah, there are artists out there who wont make me feel that way? You did not say that at all, instead you framed it like I'm stupid for not realising this could happen. That point didnt come out when you're too busy making me feel like an idiot for not being able to be assertive in that moment. Assuring me that there are artists out there who would be able to actually manipulate elements and come up with something is much more helpful and comforting. In that moment with this artist, I was made to feel like that wasn't possible. it's not about coddling or not being a victim. Thinikng someone shouldnt be a "victim" isnt an excuse to make them feel stupid.

Nobody is saying you're stupid and nobody is happy that you're not happy. Take a deep breath and calm down. We're offering advice so it doesn't happen again. Very few people are happy with every single tattoo they have. As the saying goes, "sh!t happens." If someone is offering advice you don't want, just ignore it. And please stop beating yourself up. The only thing you are guilty of is being human.

Seriously stop saying that! you’re just saying things I already said. That’s not what I asked about. I'm not saying it's an attack, but I am saying it's extremely insensitive and unhelpful. What I'm saying is there's no need to keep hammering this part home, when I also had actual questions in the post. I was never asking what I “should” have done, I clearly KNOW what I should have done, because I SAID it. But it wasn’t as simple as that in the moment. I explained how it happened and how I didnt think to leave, because I wanted to trust her. If you can't understand how that happened in the moment, please just leave me alone. Because it happened. All of this I know for next time, but I was never asking you what to do for next time, I already know all that, I said it straight up in the post. I posted wondering if anyone else has ever felt pushed like that, or wasnt able to be assertive, or you don't think it's weird an artist would just straight copy something I didn't even ask for, but clearly you are all fine. Good for you if you’re all the kind of people who were more prepared to walk away your first time, I don’t know how I F***ing wasn’t able to, and can’t stop beating myself up about such an expensive (and soon painful) mistake and needed to vent about it. And now I just want this post F***ing deleted but they wont let me, because you’re not getting the point and making me feel worse.

yeah, that tattooist is pushing off his heavy handedness on you. Pure bullshit.

A tattoo takes 4-6 weeks to heal. That skin looks over worked so it may take longer. Yes, some pain on skin worked that hard would be normal.

AND I SAID THAT IN MY FIRST POST. You can validate that part without telling me like I'm stupid. I know it's my F***ing body, I already said that. I just thought if I said I didn't like something, she would make suggestions as she's the artist. Even though now I can think of SO many other ways he could have been contained in something (like a triangle because it suits the game, or a music staff with the ocarina notes, or a ribbon. There are so many F***ing ways). I wish I could have gone away and thought about it. Instead I felt a bit pushed to go with it. I really wish I said I more, but I didn't anticipate feeling pushed in the moment. Like I was clearly unhappy anything I didn't like something, and instead of offering to change it, just pushed me to go with it. Do they ever say "happy to make adjustments" or just be pushy like that? I wish I was more prepared to just walk out. I'm not saying it's her fault that I agreed, but I just still feel like I went to the wrong artist because she didnt get creative with it. Just copied something existing that I didnt ask for. And she didnt make it her own. I didnt even realise she just straight copied something until later. My references were the exact same scale, why not copy something I actually sent? Not saying it's her fault if that's her style, I just went in with so much trust that she would come up with something. In the moment she made me feel like her way was the only way, but seeing other tattoos that more like what I wanted makes me upset seeing it IS possible. I just wanted to let her come up with something cause I thought she would do a better job than me. I won't ever do that again, I need to make sure I know exactly what I want/draw it myself first and ask what's possible, ask around, instead of going in so blind. Thanks for the heads up. I actually went for a consult for peace of mind for what could be done, it would have to be way too big/dark (2-3x the size) and they said it couldn't really be anything other than flowers. So I'm just going to get laser to lighten it and get something else there down the line, leave that arm for a while. And then try my zelda idea again on my other arm. But go for consults first to be able to chat with the artist, because it's such a custom idea. Instead of going in blind.

Not to be argumentative, but four months should be enough time to heal and just looking at that skin tells me it's overworked. You really just need to wait and see how it looks. I had one of my sleeves extended about an inch and initially, there were two shades of black ink, but eventually you couldn't tell the difference. Can't imagine how much you paid. It doesn't matter how good an artist is, everyone screws up once in a while. The only thing that matters is how good they did YOUR tattoo.

Your artist is full of sh!t. That’s just insulting and that would be the end of any relationship with me. It looks like he worked the sh!t out of it and now isn’t man enough to admit it so he’s blaming you. That’s just weak. Good luck, just take care of it, give it a couple of months. I’ve seen some pretty rough things wind up healing OK.

What exactly is making you worry about this tattoo?