I like what you have going. Get some small fill-in tattoos. If you want to use fillers, get stars and dots. Don't add some weird background. A "graywash" won't look good.
Welcome. Honestly, I'm not sure that I'd opt for any kind of background. It looks like there are still a few places for some filler (bugs, flowers, abstract whatnots), but outside of stars and dots I'd probably just leave the skin open. If you have an artist in mind who you trust, his or her view is definitely worth hearing.
1. Yes, your e-mail will likely be ignored until they are willing to book new appointments. If proximity permits, drop by and visit the shop, the manager and/or artist to build a rapport and feel for the shop and how it works.
2. No. Collecting from numerous artists is very common. More the norm.
3. No. That is why it's important to know what style you want and ensure your artist is a master of that style. It is also not uncommon for drawings to be tweeked upon presentation and review by the customer.
4. Not if that artist already has a history of doing that type of work. Don't try and assume that an artist good with one style can do great in another. That would be like expecting Justin Beiber to perform like James Brown.
5. If you're hesitant about stepping out, why not choose a more hidden spot?
Oh, there's a bunch over there. Matt Black, Jondix, Matt Chahal, Scott Move, Nick Whybrow, Jack Peppiette, Dale Sarok, Deryn Stephensen and Chris Bint - just to name a few of my favorites.
I have many tattoos all over my body,incl,knees,elbows,hands,wrists,neck,ribs,and the most painful place for me has been my inner thighs.
I had this done at a SF convention on a 9 hour "one shot",the outline wasn't so bad,the shading kicked my ass though.
S Stu gave you good advise.
I'll add to #5: I have a half-sleeve on one arm and a large piece on the other upper arm. Neither is actually very visible in regular short sleeved shirts. I have several large pieces on my thighs and lower legs and those definitely draw attention when I wear shorts, but jeans of course hide them all. I haven't yet progressed to forearms, as I'm not quite ready for something I can't cover easily (I live in the deep South and long sleeves are a rare thing for me out of uniform). You have to realize that you WILL get looks/stares, but that doesn't mean disapproval! You'll probably get asked about your visible tattoos fairly often; again that's not a bad thing! I think S Stu's advise is sound: get more tattoos in more easily hidden places, and move to more visible places as your confidence grows.
Good luck!
Wildcat
it's a cool design,and the best thing I could say about getting that tattoo is that it would have to be pretty large to even work and stay looking good down the road.If you're going to get that,"go big or go home".So IMO get it big.
get it bigger than you think you want it when getting tattooed, has always been a good rule for me.