New Beautiful Tattoo - Mix of Emotions (Regret, visibility?)

[karatefoxes]

Hello all!

About 3 weeks ago, I got my arm tattooed. I've been planning this one for a long time, and it's mostly a mix of my design and my artist's design. The meaning is kinda abstract -- just basically is something that reflects my identity; shows my love for embracing dreams (actual night-time REM dreams, which I always have vivid ones), and embracing the unknown from our earthly position (basically how we see constellations from earth, and I put the Big Dipper and Little Dipper to scale). Watercolor because I LOVE color even though I'm very tan. 

Anyways, this is where the anxiety began. I had planned to get this smaller to kind of mirror the other tattoo I have on my left arm. The artist did tell me it would need to be bigger. And of course, me being a person who's never regretted a tattoo before (I even have Ash & Pikachu from Pokemon Yellow on my ankle, totally silly) I went with it. I was like "Sure, let's make it bigger. It's going to be on the arm anyway!" and mostly, this was true, my other tattoo on my other arm I wish were bigger! So here we are. I'm a little horrified about how big it is. Everyone I talk to says it's wonderful and fits perfect. However, I'm just afraid for people to see it for some reason. I'm wearing longer sleeves than normal to cover it up and I'm just all around scared for people to see it and think of me differently. It's a big change and I'm struggling a bit.

I feel that I'm slowly accepting it, but sometimes I honestly think it's because I feel like it's too "dark" or too "black". Would it be a mistake to go to a laser tattoo removal specialist and request them to do about 3 sessions to "fade" the tattoo to be a little bit less noticeable? Is that a thing that people do? Would it help me feel better about it being so BAM there? Or is this just me trying to adjust to this change? Is it a good size? Would it even fade the way I'm envisioning? 

I've attached a picture below. This was the day that I got it. I can even attach one healed but it's almost identical. 

(I'm a 27 year old girl, if that helps any.)

 

[Dan]

hi,you have "tattoo remorse", it's very common,it will go away,

your tattoo is a nice tattoo,

don't get any laser done,

it will fade and lighten naturally over time,

now,put a tank top on and show it with pride,nobody is going to think less of you,and if they do that's their problem.

[Hogrider]

Don't monkey with it. You'll likely make it worse, not better. You'll get used to it.

[karatefoxes]

Thank you guys for your replies. I believe I can get used to it, I just get a little worried about the entire thing sometimes. There are some moments where I am completely okay with it, and others where I’m feeling remorse about how I simple I used to look before. 
 

I agree though. I think I would rather wait a bit and see how it heals rather than jump into any major decisions. But it’s good to know that there are options if I wanted to go that way!

[Lalica]

Hi. 😊 I also need an advice about my new tattoo. I like it, like the design, love it when i look at it directly, but when i look at it from far away it just looks odd. It seems like the lines (i attached the photo) are unfinished and need to be “connected” somewhere. Especially i do not like the lower part, which i think should be connected more with birds and be wider..

Now the question is, how to make the lower part of tattoo fuller and how to connect it to birds. I’m open to cover ups and to add anything like flowers, birds, leaves,.. I’ve already spoken to my tattoo artist and he is willing to help, but first we need to wait for the tattoo to heal. But now i’m freaking ouuut. 😣

Please help me find the right solution. Thank youuuu and sorry for my english 🙈😊

[oboogie]

Just leave it. Trying to cover that or "connect" the two is going to make it worse. It looks OK.

12 minutes ago, Lalica said:

Hi. 😊 I also need an advice about my new tattoo. I like it, like the design, love it when i look at it directly, but when i look at it from far away it just looks odd. It seems like the lines (i attached the photo) are unfinished and need to be “connected” somewhere. Especially i do not like the lower part, which i think should be connected more with birds and be wider..

Now the question is, how to make the lower part of tattoo fuller and how to connect it to birds. I’m open to cover ups and to add anything like flowers, birds, leaves,.. I’ve already spoken to my tattoo artist and he is willing to help, but first we need to wait for the tattoo to heal. But now i’m freaking ouuut. 😣

Please help me find the right solution. Thank youuuu and sorry for my english 🙈😊

 

[oboogie]

46 minutes ago, karatefoxes said:

Thank you guys for your replies. I believe I can get used to it, I just get a little worried about the entire thing sometimes. There are some moments where I am completely okay with it, and others where I’m feeling remorse about how I simple I used to look before. 
 

I agree though. I think I would rather wait a bit and see how it heals rather than jump into any major decisions. But it’s good to know that there are options if I wanted to go that way!

I felt weird at first, too, but now I have two full sleeves and my lower legs are covered. You'll get used to it.

Don't try to add to it. It'll look like ass. Just own it and enjoy it. It's fine. It's not 'too dark" in any way. It will fade significantly. You won't see the "watercolor" elements at all before long.

[karatefoxes]

3 minutes ago, oboogie said:

I felt weird at first, too, but now I have two full sleeves and my lower legs are covered. You'll get used to it.

Don't try to add to it. It'll look like ass. Just own it and enjoy it. It's fine. It's not 'too dark" in any way. It will fade significantly. You won't see the "watercolor" elements at all before long.

Do you think it would benefit to get the watercolor portions darker or touched up by the artist? I know color does fade and I’m fine with that, thankfully. It’s got a lot of delicate lines so I’m happy to hear that it’ll become less dark overtime.. 

also I do have a significant tan right now. My arm is usually much lighter. Summer just ended a few weeks ago here lol

[Dan]

1 hour ago, Lalica said:

Hi. 😊 I also need an advice about my new tattoo. I like it, like the design, love it when i look at it directly, but when i look at it from far away it just looks odd. It seems like the lines (i attached the photo) are unfinished and need to be “connected” somewhere. Especially i do not like the lower part, which i think should be connected more with birds and be wider..

Now the question is, how to make the lower part of tattoo fuller and how to connect it to birds. I’m open to cover ups and to add anything like flowers, birds, leaves,.. I’ve already spoken to my tattoo artist and he is willing to help, but first we need to wait for the tattoo to heal. But now i’m freaking ouuut. 😣

Please help me find the right solution. Thank youuuu and sorry for my english 🙈😊

 

yep,it looks fine,

 

stop freaking out and relax and enjoy it, as you start planning your next awesome tattoo.

[oboogie]

5 hours ago, karatefoxes said:

Do you think it would benefit to get the watercolor portions darker or touched up by the artist? I know color does fade and I’m fine with that, thankfully. It’s got a lot of delicate lines so I’m happy to hear that it’ll become less dark overtime.. 

also I do have a significant tan right now. My arm is usually much lighter. Summer just ended a few weeks ago here lol

The watercolor will fade because there is no outline. Not much you can do about that, I'm afraid.