1st "Big" Tattoo

[Dan S]

Kinda like when my first wife told me she'd leave if I got another motorsickle...told her not to let the door, etc.

[else]

Kinda like when my first wife told me she'd leave if I got another motorsickle...told her not to let the door, etc.

I'm with Dan on this one... if my husband ever forbade me from doing anything that is important to me one of us would be looking at the wrong side of the front door.

[dari]

... last June I was tattooed on my arm in NYC which I had planned to do all my life, my wife's reaction however I could not have planned, she shook and cried uncontrollably! I knew she doesn't really hold a love of the art form as I do but man this was extreme, I've tried to tell her about my leg but she simply just changes the subject or outright ignores me - the rest of life together is heaven and I wouldn't change it for anything but I guess what I'm asking is - how do you live with someone who doesn't respect your interest enough to try and understand?

Sorry, man, that's rough, no advice here. My ex-husband didn't like tattoos on me that much, but it's a non-issue now. Is she open minded in other ways? Shaking is an unusual reaction, that's almost like a phobia or something. Maybe you should take her to a hynotist to find out what's really wrong and help her get past it. (I know I must sound like a smart ass here, which I am indeed, but I'm also a new-age kook, and that's the angle I'm coming from right this second.)

My husband outright told me that I could not get my hands tattooed, but his reason was that I have plenty of other skin left and I hadn't earned it yet.

[gougetheeyes]

@Leighroy did you surprise your wife with it? Had you talked about it before?

[Leighroy]

Hi Dari, I appreciate your thoughts, the reaction was extreme given that I had spoken about it , shown her sketches of ideas and expressed my excitement, also I have bigger tattoos and all them when she met me bar the new one from NY, she even has a small tattoo herself and I hadn't considered it may be linked to some other phobia or such like, thank you.

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No it wasn't a surprise, I had talked about it over the 7 or 8 months ahead of our trip, I even had drawn the idea of the tattoo at scale and held it up to my arm to show her, I had told her many times of being tattooed on my first trip to NY and I just think she didn't think I was serious about it perhaps?

I have larger tattoos and they where there when we met, she even has a small tattoo herself it was a strange and very uncomfortable reaction.

[fourtotheflush]

@Leighroy

What is the peice on your arm? is it a shocking image?

Maybe the sketch and the image dont work well together.

How is she now that it a few months removed?

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On my note, as everyone may have seen in the healing thread, I had a 2.5 hour session and go back at the end of the month to get it colored.

I couldn't be happier with how this turned out and am on the road to recovery right now. Healing up nicely.

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Shading near the nipple is going to be good times!

Although im about a half inch from the nipple, it felt like I was getting tattood right on it! - weird sensation!.

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I am just under the collarbone and I think that was more painful and an odder senstation, like your entire skeleton was being vibrated!

[Colored Guy]

Bigger may be the way to go on a pec tattoo... but you'll have to get the other side done eventually...

At the appointment you get the last chance to size it, I can't see why it would matter to someone else if it were a little smaller or bigger. Its still gonna be there!

Whatever goes, don't put the artist in the middle of a squabble in the shop. If you think things may get sticky, have the wife stay at home... but have the artist put a 12" x 12" gauze pad on you at the end...

Rob

[tattoodgirlwithocd]

Never bring a significant other or parent with to get tattooed.

If I didn't bring my fiance to my most recent session I would not have lasted. He was a big support and the best distraction I could have hoped for.

[Noobink]

Its your body, but always be honest

[Dan]

If I didn't bring my fiance to my most recent session I would not have lasted. He was a big support and the best distraction I could have hoped for.

yep ! pain management is all about putting yourself somewhere else,putting yourself in a good happy place,the challenge and control of pain management is an amazing thing our bodies are capable of,it is different for all of us,but the theory is the same.

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If I didn't bring my fiance to my most recent session I would not have lasted. He was a big support and the best distraction I could have hoped for.

yep ! pain management is all about putting yourself somewhere else,putting yourself in a good happy place,the challenge and control of pain management is an amazing thing our bodies are capable of,it is different for all of us,but the theory is the same.

[JonBlood]

Meditating during my sittings has been helpful although I haven't had my ribs done yet. Might not make a difference in that case

[lildropofsunshine]

Depending on how big you are and where it is on your body, that's not a big tattoo. Maybe show her the size by cutting a piece of paper into it?